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Becky the Woman Crazy Enough to Marry me!

Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is he who finds that true friend in his wife. -Franz Schubert

My poor, poor wife.

When I met my wife it was during a very awkward time in my life because I was still a new member of The Church which was a total 180 degree spin from who I was, so I was in the process of rediscovering myself and it really showed in all the wrong ways. She wanted nothing to do with me until I gave a talk during Sacrament that saved her from leaving The Church. Really what got her really interested in me was the fact that I was a very good active listener who made sure she knew that she was the center of my attention by paraphrasing and asking follow up questions. I am sad to say that I’ve slacked in our marriage when it comes to make sure she knows that I am listening like I did when we dated and I bet that has helped us go down the rabbit hole of negative communication in our marriage. 

Becky and I really have a hard time communicating and it is so bad at times that it’s almost like we are speaking two different languages. We both get defensive, accusatory, and take offense often when none was taken. This isn’t always the case because when we are on the same page it really shows and you can see the love between us. I know that we need to work on things because communication is essential because we maybe husband and wife, but we are also best friends or at least we should be. 

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Our Wedding Day!
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Our Engagement Pictures.
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My mom, Me, Becky, and my dad.
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When we dated.

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Becky and I as newlyweds.

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