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My Dad

“Some fathers and sons don't get along that well when they're younger because they can't find a way to reach each other, ... A father loves you dearly but you don't see it and so you're always trying to please your father, but your father doesn't let you know how he feels, which is, you don't have to please him because he already loves you.” - Braylon Edwards


So one of my first memories of my dad just happens to be when he came back from being over in Korea for a year. I was two or three at the time and I bit the crap out of him as I didn’t remember who he was. He was also trying to gift me a stuffed E.T. doll and mind you I am terrified of E.T. to this day. This memory illustrates the relationship that would develop between him and me.
E.T., creepy little bastard…

So to say that there are communication issues between us is an understatement to say the least. I have this petrifying fear of being completely open and honest with him. Part of that comes from my mom manipulating me into taking her side in arguments between them through use of bribery and other manipulation tactics. Sadly this manipulative language is something I’ve inherited which I assume is a good piece of evidence on the “Significant-Other Theory”. I really adapted the ability to use my words to manipulate those I love without even really noticing that I do it unless it’s pointed out to me. 

On the other end my father has never had an issue being completely blunt to a fault with me with most of what comes out of his mouth is constructed critically. His complimenting body language really reinforced it while also making him hard to read all the time because his body language never relaxed. To this day I’ve been able to find more out about my father through my aunt and my mom then I ever have from the man himself.

Hopefully one day that will change, but I won’t be holding my breath while I wait. 


However I will always love and cherish the time I do have with him and am grateful for all he does for me.



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At the Ogden Temple Open House I believe in 2015.

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My dad and I in South Carolina in 1981.


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My dad and I in Alaska.



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Us when we lived in Alaska in the mid-eighties. This is my favorite photo of my parents and I.




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